There is Victory in Healing

written by regular contributor, jen fair

Photo courtesy of #createlounge friend,   Marlena Steiner

Photo courtesy of #createlounge friend, Marlena Steiner

Recently, I have walked through a challenging season.

A season that has been so painful. I have experienced pain when it comes to relational heart break but this was much deeper. This pain came through an emotional and spiritual experience.

Regardless of what I had experienced, there is victory in the healing process.

There is hope and I hope this blog post is reminder that no matter what your circumstances are and what you are going through that there is victory in your healing process from the pain that you are suffering. 

Have you been hurt emotionally, spiritually, verbally, or mentally?

I know I have. I’ve experienced severe emotional, verbal, and mental abuse. Sometimes, you feel as though that you will never get over it; let alone heal from it. Maybe you’ve been hurt by your friends, family, significant other, co-workers, church family, etc. Maybe you feel alone and maybe even depressed.

I want you to know that there is victory in the healing process. God is fighting for you. He has already gone before you and your situation. He has already overcome your battle. He is in control of your situation that you are experiencing right now. There is victory in Jesus’ name and we need to proclaim that!

The healing process has stages that we need to go through regardless of the type of situation that you are facing. When I was going through an emotional healing process, I realized that I began going through the five stages of grieving. It doesn’t matter whether you are experiencing emotional, spiritual, verbal or mental pain… we all will go through these stages (even without realizing it). The stages start like this: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. 

When I started to go through the healing process, I began going through the stage of denial. I became numb to what I was facing. I was in complete shock and could not fully accept what was happening. I felt overwhelmed and that life made zero sense.

As I became stronger, the denial began to fade and I proceeded to the following stage of anger. In this stage of anger, I began wrestling with God with these questions, “Why am I going through this? Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” I felt abandoned. I struggled with embracing these emotions of anger because I was used to suppressing it. Looking back, I realize that I am thankful for releasing my anger instead of suppressing it because anger revealed how much I cared and it helped me release my emotions so I can walk through the healing of not being bitter towards the pain.

The next stage is called bargaining. This stage looked different for me but I spent many hours wondering “what if” – what if I did this? What if I did that? What if I did this differently? I spent many hours, days and months as I began to think of different ways of negotiating my way out from experiencing the pain that I had experienced. Sooner or later, I fell into depression. I experienced intense sadness. I withdrew from life and my normal routine.

Eventually, I accepted the reality of the situation and learned to live with it. I realized that through my healing that I was growing and that it was time readjust my life. I accepted new beginnings and was able to move on towards the future that God has for me. 
I did not have to go through the healing process alone and neither do you.

Throughout the healing process, God is with you.

He has given you strength to get through the emotional, verbal, mental and spiritual pain that you are experiencing. I know He gave me everything that I needed when I went through it and He will do the same for you. He knows what you need and He will supply it. You are not alone. The pain that you are experiencing is worth it because you will come out stronger and established – mature and complete in the eyes of Jesus.

There is victory in the healing process because your strength did not come by yourself; but your strength came from Jesus Christ who fought the good fight before you experienced the present pain. Whatever pain or loss that you are experiencing, there is hope at the end of the tunnel. It is worth going through. There is victory because you are not alone. God is with you and He will give you the strength as you continue through the healing process to lead you into the victory!

But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. – 1 Corinthians 15:57
And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. – 1 Peter 5:10
Jen Fair for #createlounge

Jen Fair

Jen Fair is pursuing her master’s degree at Liberty University in Christian counseling/life coaching. She's obsessed with drinking coffee and dancing. And most importantly, she loves writing and taking pictures especially for Shoutout Radiance, a movement to encourage and empower women.