Book Club: The Crossroads of Should and Must for October 2016

Join Douglas Humphries and Kayla Hollatz to chat about our October #createlounge book club choice, The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna. In this episode, we talk about the 'shoulds' we battle in our lives, the power of vulnerability in finding our 'must', and the differences between a job, career, and calling. 



  • our initial thoughts of The Crossroads of Should and Must and expectations
  • How Douglas has encountered his biggest “should” in the term ‘responsibility’ 
  • how Kayla’s family has supplied her with ‘shoulds’ from a young age
  • how we’ve combatted the “shoulds” in our lives to pursue our definitions of success
  • the difference between having a job, career, and a calling
  • what we believe are our callings and how that relates to our jobs and careers
  • what passions make us come alive in our everyday creative work
  • a transparent look into how traumatic experiences illuminated Kayla’s ‘must’
  • how vulnerability has changed the way Douglas looks at his 'must'
  • what we're planning for NaNoWriMo for the #createlounge community and alternative projects




  • D: “All my ‘shoulds’ have been in reference to responsibility. Recently I’ve seen what it’s cost me.” 
  • K: “My identity has always been in my work. It’s something I’m being challenged by right now.”
  • K: “In defining success for yourself, you come face-to-face with the ‘shoulds’ you’ve always been taught.”  
  • D: “The epitome of ‘should’ is found in the word ‘expectation.’”
  • K: “The core of you, that calling, will stay the same even if your assignment shifts.” 
  • K: “Take your identity out of your assignment and put it back into your constant, your calling.”
  • D: “Calling is a lifelong thing. It’s growing and changing as we are growing and changing.”
  • D: “What makes me come alive is helping other people come alive.” 
  • K: “Mentorship is so important to me because I want to be who I needed when I was younger.”
  • D: “To have active, real, and beneficial communities requires a certain level of vulnerability.” 
  • D: "Your must is deeply personal. It isn't going to look like anyone else's." 




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